Mama said there’d be days like this

One thing I hope readers of my blog (that haven’t met me) never think about me…

Wow, she really has it all together.

(I say those that haven’t met me because if you met me you’d totally know I don’t have it all together.)

It’s so easy to write about the pretty part of parenting; post the cuteness all over Instagram/Facebook/Twitter. It’s not like everyone is pulling out their iPhones during a tug of war with their kid and says, “This is cute. I’m so posting this!”

Being a parent is hard.
Blended family life is hard.
Regular life is hard.

Most days are filled with awesomeness, smiles, hugs and tears of laughter.

But there are also days when your children act like crazy people, make bad choices or break your heart. Sometimes all of those in one day. It’s so easy to reflect on your kids and wonder,
“Is this my fault? Have I totally screwed this whole mom thing up? So-and-so’s kids don’t act like this. It must be something I’m not doing right.”

It is in that moment I’m reminded…
Comparison is the thief of joy.”

Don’t compare your kids or your experience with motherhood to others. It will make you overly critical of yourself and leave you feeling completely inadequate.

Try to take each day (or hour) at a time.

Pray.
Do the best you can.
Cry when you need to.
Pray.
Love them.
Love yourself.
Never give up.
Pray.

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P.S. Dear self, please come read this post when you need to be reminded that you’re a good mom whose heart is completely invested in this motherhood/stepmom gig and it’s ok to not have it all together.

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7 thoughts on “Mama said there’d be days like this

  1. Thanks for posting… It is hard being a parent. I too have a blended family and at times I feel like I have failed in more ways than one. We do have to keep in mind that not everyone parents the same therefore we can’t compare ourselves, but it is HARD! It does take a lot of praying! Glad I’m not alone and I love reading your blogs:) ~ Kristi

  2. I love “comparison is the thief of joy.” that’s so true. We don’t know what we think we want until we look around and see who else has what. It’s stupid, really. What makes us so unhappy with our own lot? We all have something to be grateful for. And NOBODY has it all, even if they look like they do. Love your final tips…pray….pray….pray. That’s what I do. πŸ™‚

  3. I fail every day. I think it’s a game my kids play daily, what can we do to get mom to yell. They are probably placing wagers in the bedroom, “I bet she blows by 10am.” Nah, she has been exercising, she’ll last until noon. πŸ™‚ Not if we do this…

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