>Every now and then I find myself in a rut.
Nothing too overly dramatic, but in a funk, so to speak. Once I realize I’m there I usually ask myself the following questions:
1. First and foremost, Is this PMS? (or AMS -after menstrual syndrome :))
2. What am I really upset about? (because sometimes it’s not what’s got me worked up at the moment)
3. Am I overreacting? (which I am totally capable of but let’s not freely admit that to The Husband)
Once I really take a look at what’s going on with my mood, I usually figure out what’s causing my party pooper attitude.
Lately, I think I’m lacking a little TLC for me. You know what I mean, when everyone else comes first and you’re stuck in last place? I’m no expert but I know I’m not the first mom in history to feel this way. In fact, just in speaking to other moms I know, this is unfortunately common.
I think in some cases, or at least in mine currently, it’s my own fault. I’m really bad about neglecting what I need/want so that everyone else is sure to be taken care of. I’ll rarely speak up about it until it’s really gotten under my skin and by that time, two-headed-monster mom is already starting to make an appearance. Life happens and lots of times, once the dust settles, I realize all I really need is to take time for me. It’s not always easy or convenient but it always helps.
Just a few of the things that make me feel more myself:
1. Reconnecting with God. -lots of times when I’m in a funk I realize it’s because I need a little perspective and who better to give that to me, than Him.
2. Date Night with The Husband. -Doesn’t even need to be anything fancy, just as long as we can have food and uninterrupted conversation away from home.
3. Time with my girls. -Whether it’s a weekly book club or a night out to dinner and drinks, it’s great to have that girl time.
4. Taking pictures. -I love taking pictures and I rarely have subjects that aren’t my children so when I do, it’s really refreshing.
5. Other TLC tasks: the typical pamper yourself stuff, of course. Mani/Pedi, massage, an extra long bath with no one coming in to bug you, etc.
I could probaly think of a list a mile long and some days these five things would be different than they are today. But the most important thing is that I make time for whatever it is I’m needing at the moment. This is ultimately easier said than done but I’m going to give it the “old college try.”
If these things aren’t your cup of tea, take a look at this link for more ideas: